The anima and animus.
The yin and the yang, the feminine and the masculine.
The inner nourish and inner fire. The good in the bad and the bad in the good.
Jungian theory and the psychological aspects of gender, identity and autonomy. There is the gender one expresses in their interactions with others, and an inner opposite. Feminine or masculine, these unacknowledged aspects of the self can be projected onto another and called “love at first sight”. When one cannot accept their inner anima or animus, then they try turn their “love at first sight” into their pet, the projection of their inner animal. The part of themself they cannot control, an extension of themself.
Relationships such as these result in ongoing conflicts as the initial lust, the initial attraction was a result of an emptiness within, that another filled by existing and completing. The emptiness of ones inability to own both feminine and masculine energy in the body.
Then expecting another to fill the role, be an extension of the self and calling it “love”. When is it an ongoing disrespect to their autonomy. So fighting continues and they wonder why, call it “the honeymoon period ending”.
Find the balance, communicate and connect.
Coincidentia oppositorum
Be non-dualistic.
See how alone you are in the world as you are, as an individual and understand another over time.
That grow together type of love, that ongoing respect of difference to determine what similarities there may be. Assert boundaries to protect from that difference and see clearly whether the person you care for shall respect those boundaries to see if they are worth your time.
Time.
The most precious thing we have.
Never wasted if fully present in the body though is it.
Yet a person can be an intoxicant, as much as a poison for the body.
Choose how you are polluted during the course of your life, if you are privileged enough to.
Be a whole not a half.
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